The subtle hints began about 8 months ago when my youngest son, Zack, started martial arts lessons. They went like this, “Dad, do you know where your black belt is? Dad, where are your old Tae Kwon Do uniforms? Do you still know how to tie your belt? Can you still do a side kick?”
Yep, he wanted me to join him in training. The immense guilt I felt was derived from the fact that I used to train about 10 years ago with my oldest son, and Zack was well aware of it. So I’ve felt in a corner on this subject for the last 8 months. I already work out early in the morning quite hard 6 days a week and stretch on the 7th. Seriously, 3-4 more workouts now in the evening too? I haven’t trained in martial arts in 10 years. 10 years! I remember no forms, no rituals, and my kicks are way off from my prime. I’ll feel stupid. I’ll feel old. It’s a different school. It’s a huge school with a huge amount of black belts, and all of them will be ‘sizing me up, wondering ‘whose the new guy? Why is he just now learning the basic forms? Is that a real black belt? I can’t wait to spar with him and teach him a lesson!’
Last week I started thinking about 2012 and all that HealthSource accomplished, all that I accomplished too. The following FACT hit me hard.
Our current circumstances are the direct result of the decisions we’ve made in the past. And get this; the decisions we’ve made in the past are the direct result of what we believe to be true about ourselves. And it gets even deeper with this thought; what we believe to be true about ourselves was often handed to us much earlier in life by our parents, teachers, events and various circumstances.
I read every day. I meditate every day. I invest time in improving who I am and what I’m capable of doing every single day. It’s part of my daily rituals. And what I know is that we can totally throw in the trash what we believe to be true about ourselves. Then we can import new truths, and as is taught in The Secret and by Neville and countless others is that when we make the conscious decision to accept these new truths as already being in place, we can realize them in our life.
Most practices slow down for a solid 2-3 weeks starting Christmas day. It’s inevitable. It’s ok. What you must do if you wish to have a better year in 2013 than what you achieved in 2012 is to take concentrated time to clearly write out your personal, family and business goals for 2013. Make them believable. And list out the Action Steps necessary to achieve them. Break them down into small steps. Discuss them with your spouse, your family, and your mentors. Review them daily all year. Then think about what you believe about yourself to be true. Get honest. When you see what you don’t like, and you will, REPLACE them with new truths. Do it in writing.
One of my beliefs was that I was too busy, too long out of it, possibly too stiff and I exercised enough so that I did NOT need to train in martial arts with Zack. Last week, I realized that was a completely BS belief based in fear. I threw out the belief and replaced it with a new one. As a result, last night was my first Tae Kwon Do workout in a decade. I’m not too terribly sore and Zack is ecstatic. It’ll help me be a better father and generate at least several more hours a week of great time with Zack.
What is it that you would like to change about yourself or your clinic in 2013? What self limiting beliefs have you uncovered? What are your goals for 2013? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
And by the way, if the Mayan calendar ending in just 3 more days causes the world to end, I guess you’re off the hook on setting your goals. But if the world continues after the 21st, and I suspect it will, let’s get to work!
Chris Tomshack DC
HealthSource Chiropractic and Progressive Wellness®